The Gift of Humility
Being a good parent in today’s world means praising your child so they will feel good about themselves, right? Yes and no. It’s great to raise a self-assured child, but even more important to understand how to temper your praise with an appropriate dose of humility.
Social media gives our children a false sense of importance which can result in an ego that can make them insensitive to other people’s feelings, again cutting away at one of the most important gifts we can teach our children…humility.
Being humble allows you to be courteous to those around you, listen to others, and place others before yourself. Teaching your child to be humble at an early age enables you to build on their natural sense of humility.
Here are 10 ways to help teach your child to be humble.
10 ways to raise a child with humility:
- Model the behavior. Let them learn by your example. Rather than placing emphasis on what you do and have, focus on what is getting done. Part of being humble is realizing you won’t always get all the credit for things. Be consistent in your actions rather than only exhibiting the behavior sometimes.
- Volunteer to help others. Show your child how important it is to care about other people. Humility means putting the needs of others before your own and volunteering together is the perfect way to demonstrate this.
- Talk to your kids about valuing other people. Remind them that even though someone might not be as fortunate as you, they deserve to be respected just as much as anyone else. Explain to them that looks, achievements and abilities are not what really give a person worth.
- Don’t humiliate your kids. Children can’t be taught humility by being bullied or beaten down. Don’t impose humiliation upon them in an attempt to educate them.
- Guide them on how to show humility to others. Role play situations involving their peers and coach them on how to respond. For example, help them learn to acknowledge the success of others as well as their own. If your son kicks the winning goal in his soccer game, teach him to recognize his teammates for their winning efforts and his coach for helping him get better at the game.
- Teach them to apologize. Help them understand the importance of a sincere apology. No one wants to take the blame, but tell them it’s important to admit when you’re wrong and learn from your mistakes.
- Teach them to say ‘thank you.’ Help them practice gratitude by saying ‘thank you’ to people in their day to day lives. Showing gratitude reveals you are a person who cares and is appreciative of the efforts of others.
- Expose your child to the stories of great leaders. Humility is always a quality of a great leader. Talk to them about America’s great war or political leaders who put others before themselves.
- Make sure they understand where real worth comes from. Teach them that they are valued because they are your child and who they are as an individual, not for what they look like or accomplish.
Help them to be the best they can be, no matter what they do. When your child actually achieves something, it’s a great time to help teach them humility. So, help them to achieve with confidence.
Written by Mary Regas for Pebble Tossers. Copyright 2017.